We are waiting...... we should have a referral of a child any day now. We are keeping busy with Sydney trying not to focus on the telephone. Once our social worker gets a match for us she will be calling to set up an appointment to look at his photo and review his file & medical information. I can't wait to see what our son looks like!!!
I chose you...
because I wanted more than what nature had in store for me.
Today, we attended a workshop for adoptive parents. The focus was on attachment and bonding issues. The instructor taught us some techniques to better help our baby transition from his life in Korea,to his new life here in the US. And, some red flags to look out for along the way.
I am going to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. She said some babies transition easily and bond very quickly with their new parents, while others do not. Some babies will even grieve the loss of their foster mother. But, this is a healthy sign. I know that his arrival day will be a big shock to his system. He will be taken from everything and everyone he knows and thrown into a situation where everyone is touching him and overcome with joy and emotion, talking a language he has never heard and faces he has never seen. Not even his formula is not the same. Poor Guy!
The instructor told us to remember that even though we have been waiting for him, he has not been waiting for us.
Hopefully, our little one will adjust easily, if not we can use what we learned today to make his transition as easy as possible. Thankfully, babies are resilient and with time & love he will learn to love & trust us in return.
Well the leaves have begun to fall. We took Sydney to a local farm to find the perfect pumpkin. She seached through every pumpkin available and choose the smallest one she could find. We tried encouraging her to pick a big smooth one that would be perfect for carving but she was content with the small pumpkin pie making kind. :)
Today we got to visit the US Citizenship & Immigration office in Cleveland. As part of the adoption process we are required to be fingerprinted twice. Once by the BCI/FBI which we completed back in August and today we were fingerprinted again my the US Dept. of Homeland Security. I have never had so many background checks in all my life. Even though this process is long and stressful, we can take comfort in knowing that everyone is looking out for the children.
Still no word on our referral. Hopefully the next few weeks will bring us good news!
I Chose you...... because you needed the love that I had to give.
Tonight we had our last homestudy visit with our social worker. So, we are now officially waiting for a referral. A referral is when the agency matches a child to an adoptive family. When that happens we will receive photos, medical information, and any social or medical history the birth mother may have provided. With that info we will be left to make our decision to accept or decline the referral. We will be waiting on pins & needles until that phone call comes. I am feeling the same excitement and anxiety that I felt when I was pregnant with Sydney. Its amazing how you can fall in love with someone you have never seen or touched.
"Every child deserves a family, and we had one to give"
Currently, we are in the homestudy stage of our adoption. Which means we are assigned a social worker, she interviews us, performs a home inspection, and guides us through the process. Her last visit is set for October 13th. After that we will wait to be matched with a baby. Our agency said we should have a match within 2 months. But, right now there are more children waiting than adoptive parents so we shouldn't have to wait long.